Dalton Laine

We each go through life looking to find ourselves, but what if finding ourselves isn't just influenced by just ourself? Today I saw this kid come into the coffeeshop where I am writing this. He reminded me of myself when I was in high school. Surrounded by four girls, he laughed and felt comfortable. Then a group of three other guys came into the shop and the kid's smile dropped. It was literally the same way I reacted when I was struggling with my sexuality. I searched for a safespace. I searched for the acceptance of others. We all want to be "normal". Normalcy is not a concept for humans. We are so different and ever changing. When I came out, one of the most rememberable things people told me was, "Don't make being gay all that you are." Being gay is such a big part of me though because it determines who I will spend my life with. It limits me from being super close to evangelical Christian conservatives. Now I am also a Christian, and that has made me lose a few friends as well. They told me they would be my friend again when I got over believing in "fairy tales". What's funny is that most people don't care that I am gay or Christian. They see me for my career, a flight attendant. So in essence I am unique, and ultimately, you are too. In the great words of Debbie Reynolds, "Being normal is vastly overrated." So as you go through life and search for yourself, remember that you are already created and God has already made you perfect. So don't be sad, take ownership of yourself. Build yourself up, and your friends will come. People are attracted to positivity. That's why your friends will be there for you when you are down. In everything you do, always be yourself, and you always will be true. 

Peace, love, and lots of Hugs,

Dalton.